WordofWarning wrote:
I just joined here because of posts like this. If your wife has noticibly gained weight and then wants to lose it she is obviously not comfortable gaining the weight so do not try to make her do anything that makes her uncomfortable. How about just telling her she is beautiful no matter what?! My husband would always tell me when I gained weight and felt miserable about it that he thought I was more beautiful than ever. It made me ease up and relax but ultimately I wanted to lose the weight to feel better about myself. Now I know he was just saying these things to encourage me to get fatter and I thought he was just being nice and complimenting me.
I understand your thoughts!
No one is perfect, and I do tell my wife she is Beautiful all the time. It just so happens that I am attracted to her more and more when she gains more weight, It's just who I am. I am sure your husband loves you and sure, it is probably true he would like to see you gain more weight. But is it really so bad that he likes it when you gain weight and loves everything about your figure when you do or would you like it better if he didn't like it when you gained and was not turned on by you or your figure even at the weight you are? I know you think of it as the same thing, but I am sure there are things aesthetically you like or would like about your husband more or less. Not to say that you would impose it on him. But let's say that you liked him more Muscular in which he was a few years ago and then all of a sudden stopped working out. He decided to start it up again and you noticed his muscles bigger and stronger and you liked it and even mentioned it to him. He kept going and you were very attracted to him with his new physique then all of a sudden he decided to not work out and he lost his muscles. You now felt, "why" and kind of wanted the muscles back on his physique. I know it's not exactly the same but you probably would show a little less interest physically then when you really loved seeing his muscles?
Not trying to be argumentative I am just simply putting it out there.
I have seen many beautiful women who were heavier and I am sure they will gain more weight and wouldn't it be a better world if they knew they were really attractive with their weight the way it is rather than someone telling them they are Beautiful if they lost some weight. Keep in mind Love is love and there certainly is an aesthetic part to it, I guess us FA's are just trying to balance out the equation.
Trust me when I say this I am sure your husband loves you very much but it is just kinda who he is. You should kind of love the fact that he loves you bigger and wouldn't mind if you got even bigger yet rather than the other option. It is social aspects that have brainwashed women primarily into thinking that you must be thin to be attractive. Ever since I was young i would identify to what I thought was a beautiful girl or woman I just tended to think the heavier beautiful ones were more for me.
